I couldn't help but wonder part 3

In episode 61, season 4 of SATC, "The Good Fight" the question of the week is When it comes to relationships, what are we fighting for?

That's the one where Carrie and Aidan move in together and Trey gives Charlotte a cardboard cut out of a baby.

Relationships are tough to begin with. Tougher it seems the older you get. It should be easier you would think, but when you have lived alone for so long then suddenly find yourself with someone new, it's full of frustrating moments.

I would never know, as I have lived alone for my whole adult life.

My best relationship has been with a company not a man. Yes, my weekly reviews of TNA wrestling (Total Non-Stop Action) has been both my longest and most solid relationship to date.

Sad, pathetic and I don't even get paid. Totally a labor of love.

The episode of SATC deals with the lack of communication between men and women and how we react to stressful issues. There is even a line where Carrie says the difference between fighting in a relationship and Madison Square Garden is there are no refs, no one to tell you when a comment is hitting below the belt.

This is very true. Too true actually. When we fight in a relationship, we hurt each other and sometimes the people around us. When we fight in a controlled area like the six sided ring, we may hurt ourself but it's very rare the people in our lives get hurt in the cross fire.

(unless of course you are standing too close to the ring during an X-Division match and get slammed by one of Chris Sabin's suicide dives.)

What is it about personal space, personal time, personal fears that cause us, no matter who we are, to start fights when in relationships? Are we as individuals so insecure that we need to cause pain to our other half in order to keep some of our own individual pride?

And how many of us know when to turn our fears into something useful? I have to go back to the question of the week on this one and ask "when it comes to relationships, what are we fighting for?"

Sorority Vampires From Hell

I was looking for a Dracula movie I had never seen before, but couldn't find one. I did however find "Sorority Vampires From Hell". So this is a bit of a replacement movie.

I can't believe I sat through this and it was only 80 minute movie.

Three girls have just joined a new sorority, and need to find out which of their new sisters is really a vampire. Meanwhile, Dracula who lives in the basement and his girlfriend Natalia are out to destroy the earth. If Natalia can claim 9 victims in 3 days she will become human.

This movie starts off with a 3D go-go dancing scene that made me question what kind of movie this was. It was listed as a horror. But after the first 2 minutes of a soft porn-ish scene where a large television displays a series of cartoon tentacles that look like jelly penises, I was thinking drugs would be nice right about now.

It's actually a slapstick comedy that makes fun of everything from Rocky Horror Picture Show to lip synced rap videos from the late 80's. There are wholes in the plot that you could drive a truck through and the sound craps out more then once.

However, the scenes with Dracula trapped in the basement and Jim the half vampire (he is in half a vampire costume and does an impression of Ash/Evil Ash from the Evil Dead 2) carry you through the rest of it.

Something to rent if you are having a big drinking party. Perfect for drive- in classic night too.

I couldn't help but wonder part 2

In the episode the Agony and the Ex-tacy (season 4 of Sex and the City ) the topic of soulmates is tackled.

The question that Carrie asks is "soulmate reality or torture device?" and each of the girls has their personal view on it. This is also the episode where Carrie has a birthday and no one shows up.

I have always been a big believer in soulmates. I've written about it on more then one occasion in the past, and still hope to find mine.

I am more then familiar with that being alone in your 30's, only I don't have the group of friends to laugh it off with. Was this the decade of the soulmate?

With shows like Sex and the City, maybe the question should be was this last decade the decade of searching for a soulmate?

The big hits in chick lit all seemed to tackle the soulmate questionnaire. So after watching this episode I couldn't help but wonder how much crap do we need to go through to find out soulmates?

I couldn't help but wonder

Columns that were turned into books into movies/tv shows.

Helen Fielding did it with Bridget Jones.

Julie Powell did it with her Juile/Juila project

and Candace Bushnell did it with Sex and the City.

What is the key element that these writers have managed to find?

Is it timing?

Is it humour?

Is it the honesty their characters possess?

I hope to find out.

Ever get thrown off course

The year is nearly up, and I have been trying to take stock of it.

Where did it all go wrong? I need to ask. Men in my life this year were a top priority as were books.

I suppose that is not much different then any other year. Yet it feels like it was.

I trusted alot of the wrong people this past year and came out scorched. Let's hope I've learned a few things and that next years relationships are more solid.

Vampire Themed Dinner

I have been thinking about this. Wither or not I get around to doing this for the challenge still has to be seen, but I have been thinking about it.

I have been on the Martha Stewart website in her Halloween recipes, I have been going through "cooking with goths" style websites, and then I remembered I had a few pages from an old Canadian Living Magazine for a Gothic themed dinner. And sure enough, they still have the recipes on the website.

So now I am armed and possibly dangerous. So, I will try to get the time and ingredients together soon and make a few of the recipes. The cocktail recipes are the easiest.

The Devil's Black Martini

50 ml black vodka

25 ml dry vermouth

6 ice cubes

1 black olive pitted

New Moon Movie

This was the last item on my Alt. To Do List for the All Vamp Challenge.

I should have learned my lesson last year with the first film, don't go opening weekend. It was so packed there were line ups with guardrails, and extra staff just for this film.

So we pick up where the last one left off, Bella is starting her senior year at school, and is in a peachy-keen relationship with Edward. And they are studying Romeo and Juliet at school, so you can see where this plot line is headed before it happens.

I'm not even sure they used a scriptwriter for this one, it seemed to be word for word from the book.

I was hoping the werewolves would have been more animatronics and less digital, but sadly the werewolves were all digital effects.

The addition of Michael Sheen as Aro was the main attraction for me seeing this installment. I loved him in the Underworld series, and was eager to see what he could do as a vampire. Too bad he didn't have much screen time in this one. There is something about the idea of the Volturi, that just reminds me so much of Anne Rice's Theater de Vampyres from her novels, and Aro just puts me in mind so much of Armand.

This was a much better film then the first one was, the story was stronger, more interesting. The introduction of the wolf pack and the beginning of their back story added a layer that the other film just did not have. Call me crazy, but the chemistry between the actor playing Jacob black and the actress playing Bella Swan seemed more believable then what we saw of Bella and Edward.

The one liners mostly delivered by the character of Alice went un-noticed by half the audience that was in the room with me, and I found myself laughing alone at all the wet dog jokes.

I guess when you get to be my age, the idea of a second love and bouncing back from a heartbreak is more interesting then the idea of a first love.

It's no secret that I think the third book Eclipse is the strongest book in the series, and am actually waiting for that film .